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If you trust yourself the Universe will trust you!

The Universe is truly amazing and the power of connection and energy continues to blow my mind!

Once again this is another perfect example of the Universe working its Power and Magic and collectively gathering women who have the intention and purpose of living in truth and teaching others how to do the same by sharing their stories and their vulnerability!

When I was invited to be part of this book, I immediately knew intuitively the right publisher had found me and I trusted from the first email!

I had put the intention out in the universe about a year prior and it’s not by chance the opportunity showed up when it did!

I knew I would meet other authors and that they would be sharing their stories but I had know idea who!

When it was revealed who all my co-authors were I was blown away at the alignment the purpose and the power at all of these beautiful powerful women all uniquely different but energetically a strong similar vibration and intention!

My teaching to others is “Trusting your Intuition!”, and you can’t teach something until you have a strong practice with yourself first.

I am joyful at the trusting on this project! I don’t believe there are any coincidences and it is obvious and clear here, the energy behind this collaboration is for the greater good to inspire and raise the vibration of consciousness through sharing our own vulnerability and personal journeys!

Let your intuition always be in alignment with your truth and it will never guide you wrong!

With much love and gratitude,
Anne Marie

Old Soul/New Beginnings

Well everyone being a contributing author has certainly pushed me out of my comfort zone! 

I am wanting to be of service and welcome reaching clients in diverse places but promoting myself makes me nervous still.

Alot of us old souls have deep memories of this world being unsafe for us to be our blessed beautiful authentic selves, so we certainly have our work cut out for us!

I do believe this world is NOW ready and safe for us to share our magical beingnesses more than ever! I know the value of shining our lights brightly  and making it easier for our people to find us. I am thankful for the stretching this book is creating in me.  Im thankful for the opportunity to share myself even further than I am used to.

So please support these brave women myself included who want to share their amazing stories, gifts and lives. We hope our vulnerability speaks to your souls and helps you shine more truly, brightly and with way more truthfulness,  love, magic and fun!

3 Ways to Overcome Failure

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Mindfulness Monday Quick Hit #14 ~ Stop Your Busy: And Become Present Just Like That

Are you one of those people who has “to get to just one more thing” – constantly?

How about needing to be on-the-go all the time out of habit? Well imagine what it would be like if you could just STOP.

Stop the busyness and bring in the ahhhhhhh…

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Most of us spend our time running around doing, doing, doing.

And while sometimes that makes us feel productive, important and needed – it sure doesn’t help us to feel grounded, clear or calm.


Do You Ever Just Stop?

Does it ever occur to you to just stop? Even for a moment.

It’s interesting how stopping changes your perspective on what seems so urgent.

And what really is so urgent or critical that you can’t stop, take a deep breath and become present?

Let’s be honest. Gratefully, for most of us there are very few occasions in our day, when our habitual running is actually averting pure disaster.

And it goes without saying, that you’ll be considerably more focused and effective if you do stop for that deep breath.


Here’s How To Stop & Become Mindful

So the next time you find yourself rushing –  use it as the perfect opportunity to become present and mindful by following these quick steps: 

  1. STOP dead in your tracks.
  2. Take a deep breath.
  3. Really feelthat deep breath.
  4. Refocuson what’s in your field of vision.
  5. Groundyour feet.
  6. State to yourself  aloud “I am present”.
  7. Smile.(very important step)
  8. Move onto your next task.

The more often you’re able to practice STOPPING, the better you’ll feel.

Pretty easy. Can’t hurt to give it a try.


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Mindfulness Monday Quick Hit #1 ~ So Simple

Do you want to start your week off right?

Check out your Mindfulness Monday Quick Hit below.

  1. Step outside and feel your feet firmly on the ground.
  2. Close your eyes and take in a deep breath filling your lungs completely.
  3. Exhale gently and slowly open your eyes.
  4. Notice your surroundings – the air, sky, ground, plants, sounds.
  5. Recognize this feeling of calm centeredness.
  6. Take this feeling with you throughout your day.


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Train Your Brain and Manage Your Anxiety: Mindfulness Gives You The Choice

Does it ever feel like you just can’t control your thoughts? Jumping from one anxiety provoking scenario to another without reprieve.

Exhausting, stressful and disempowering are descriptors that come to mind. But I have some good news for you. You can control your thoughts. And by managing these little monsters you can find some new and welcomed descriptors like peaceful, centered and productive.

Let me share a few secrets with you.


What You May Not Realize About Your Brain

  1. Your brain can be trained. Yes that’s right. It’s a muscle and just like your bicep or your booty you can exercise and tone this muscle.
  2. Training this muscle can happen in just minutes a day.
  3. You don’t need any equipment to strengthen this muscle. All you need is yourself, a willingness and the space you’re in at the moment.
  4. It feels good to train your brain. Yep. You’ll have a positive reaction immediately. Doesn’t get much better than that.


How To Train Your Brain

What’s the magic exercise for training your brain and firming up this muscle?




There are an endless number of mindfulness activities that you can incorporate into your daily routine. And as you get more comfortable with the idea, you’ll be noting mindful the moments as they occur.

But for the beginner, I would recommend identifying specific exercises and committing to two times each day where you agree to become more consciously mindful.


The Definition of Mindfulness

My favorite definition of mindfulness comes from Jon Kabat -Zinn, the creator of MBSR (Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction) and founder of The Center for Mindfulness in Medicine .

Mindfulness is…

Paying attention in a particular way

On purpose

In the present moment

Without judgment


If you haven’t already, reread the definition and take it in line by line.

It seems pretty simple when you put it that way.

“But how do I do that?” you might be asking.

Let me give you a couple techniques to try. And remember, the more often you exercise and train your brain with mindfulness, the better you’ll be at keeping the “good feelings” at the forefront and the “bad feelings” in a timeout where they belong.


Easy Mindfulness Techniques

As I mentioned before, on your journey to mindfulness it’s best to choose two times each day that you will practice mindfulness. Taking just these few moments to train your brain can make a difference. And the more you do it, the more grounded, calm and in control you’ll feel.


Technique #1

The Breath, The Breath, The Breath

All you need to do here is become still, close your eyes and slowly take 3 deep breaths. This brings you right into your body and into the moment.Becoming present. Done.


Technique #2

Drifting to Sleep Or Gently Waking

As you slip into your sheets for bed tonight, take several minutes to acknowledge the softness of your pillow, the warmth of your blankets and the restful support from your mattress. Delight in the relaxing sensations before drifting to sleep.

When you first wake up, appreciate the silence of the morning. Be still and listen for the more subtle sounds as you rise. The chime of a clock in the living room, the hum of distance traffic or faint chipping of birds. Tuning in and noting what you hear is an easy way to become present.


More Exercises and Techniques

If you liked the mindfulness activities above, check these Mindfulness Monday blogs. More easy techniques to try.

Quick Hit #4 ~ A Mindful Moment and Quick Hit #6 ~ The 3 Ws

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Harvesting Happiness: The One Thing That I Know

This is the photo of one happy “farm boy!” And the one thing that I know is it wasn’t always the way he felt about the farm.  In fact, when I met Kim nineteen short years ago, he told me the story of leaving the farm (at the age of eighteen) to later join the Air Force because, “he couldn’t get out of there quick enough.”
How many of us share a similar story? A background that involves growing up in a household or situation that as soon as we graduated from high school, we were “out of there!”  The one thing that I know is I shared the same story with Kim.  I, too, left as soon as I was able to do it.  I didn’t join the armed forces, I took three jobs to support myself.
Each of us chose to get as far away as possible from our childhoods.  In Kim’s case, he had had enough of (in his words), “scooping frozen hog shit in the freezing cold of winter.”  And a father that was “very hard on him.” In my case, my family was being torn apart by a divorce.  There was a lot of fighting, crying, name calling, and years of dysfunctional behavior.  All I wanted was to create my own little family with the ideal husband, a cute little house, with a white picket fence.  The American dream.
A lot of life happened for the both of us between then and now.  And I’ll fast forward to the point! Something else we both shared was a strong feeling of discord with the relationship of one of our parents.  Kim’s was his father.  Mine was my mother.  In 2006, with Kim’s encouragement, I took the Heal Your Life® Workshop Leader Training.  In this week long intensive training, that I now have the honor and privilege to teach, I deeply explored the history with my mother.  With the support of the others that showed up for this experience, I bared my soul.  Spoke my truth.  Cried my eyes out.  Beat pillows to release all the years of pent up anger, frustration, and resentment.  And with all that being said, the two most powerful things that I heard (and acted upon) were the following:
  • If your parents are still alive and you wonder why they did something, ask them.
  • Everyone is always doing the very best they can with the awareness, knowledge, and skills they have.
In a very condensed version of my story, I used this process (along with forgiveness) to *heal the relationship with my mother.  When I saw that this is possible, naturally, I wanted the same for Kim and his father.
I’m not quite sure of what year it was exactly, but Jack Coffman, was very ill.  It was Christmas Eve, Kim and his father hadn’t spoken in quite a while.  With a bit of uneasiness, yet a willingness to make the first move, Kim boarded an airplane to the farm.  His home that he’d been away from for nearly twenty years. Imagine the surprise on everyone’s faces when he walked into the front door to wish his father a Merry Christmas.  A few years later, Jack Coffman, his stern, proud, burly father, left this planet.  Fortunately, after they’d shared a holiday, hug, and healing.
It’s harvest time.  The time of year when the farmers are reaping what they sowed.  Kim has returned to the farm to be side-by-side in the fields with his two brothers, just as his father did over sixty+ years ago. You can tell by the expression on his face (in the photo above) that his heart and spirit are incredibly happy!
The one thing that I know is anything is possible when we have the courage to take responsibility for our lives and situations.  If you could experience your own abundant harvest, what would it be and are you willing to do what it takes to get there?  I’m so happy and grateful that each of us were willing to take the necessary steps in healing our old hurts.  What we’ve learned together is truly “everyone is always doing the very best they can with the awareness, knowledge, and skills they have.”  Plus, forgiveness and compassion are important seeds for a rich harvest.

Sandra J. Filer, MBA, is a high energy, believer in the human capacity to achieve whatever the mind can conceive.  She specializes in working with ambitious women seeking fulfillment in their life and work.  Her approach is heartfelt, effective and immediately applicable.  As a Heal Your Life® Teacher & Coach Trainer she delivers life-changing certification programs grounded in the teachings of Louise Hay.  Also known as The Happy Goddess®, her ultimate goal is to guide her clients far away from that inner critic and deeply into self-love and appreciation.

Embrace Your Fears and Break the Ties That Bind You

Fear happens to everyone, and it is no wonder with the t. v. news, the internet, job stress, family issues, and our lives seeming to speed up faster and faster. With the daily information overload we’re bombarded with, we are being collectively programmed to think that the boogie man is around every corner ready to jump out at us. A lot of us think that this onslaught doesn’t affect us very much, but in the long term it does. It affects our mental, emotional, spiritual, and also our physical health.

Fear is a natural physical response to danger. Our bodies react to our perception of danger by releasing the hormones adrenaline and cortisol from the adrenal glands. This speeds up our heart rate, slows digestion, shunts blood flow to major muscle groups, and over time can weaken the immune system.

Fortunately, there are ways to combat the onslaught of negativity and/or stress that causes our fear hormones to rage out of control.

Some of the ways to help keep fears under control are:

  1. Take deep controlled breaths
  2. Limit watching the news and buying into propaganda
  3. Meditation – Prayer -Affirmations
  4. Take walks outdoors – Yoga
  5. Aromatherapy
  6. Acupressure – Energy work

Listen to soft musicMy Personal StoryFor quite a few years, I wrestled with the idea that my life purpose was healing and teaching. I kept up a hectic pace in the corporate world (which I totally resented), and it was slowly sucking the life right out of me.I had this terrible fear that even though I was getting angelic messages and constant prodding’s from source, that I was not going to make it financially unless I worked full-time. I was also hearing “You won’t make it” messages from other well-meaning people in my life. This fear paralyzed me at times and kept me swimming in doubt and anxiety.

It wasn’t until I embraced fear and let it fuel the fire in my belly instead of stopping me in my tracts, that I learned that fear can also be your ally. Now, I have a part-time job that I enjoy and the time and energy to do what I feel called to do. At some point fear became the fuel that pushed me out of my comfort zone and into having faith that god will provide. I am not saying that I don’t ever go into fear, because I do, but I don’t live there anymore.

Fear has been a friend to me at times, and other times a foe, but all of my personal experiences with fear have taught me life lessons that I am eternally grateful for.

Don’t let fear shut you down, let it be the catalyst that wakes you up and fuels your fire!

Melanie Channell is a certified spiritual counselor/tarot reader, Numerologist, Chios Master Teacher, crystal healer, and angel enthusiast. She has been certified in over 60 energy healing modalities and has been studying spirituality and empowerment concepts for over 20 years. You may contact her at

Musings of a Struggling Writer

I confess that I am a struggling writer. I often struggle with my writing because I have so much to say but need to organize and structure my thoughts in order to convey exactly what I really mean. Other times I struggle because I have an idea in the recesses of my mind but I struggle to find the right words to communicate or express it. Still other times I can write an entire chapter or a poem in my head while taking a shower.

Creative writing sometimes needs a catalyst. You feel something inside; you can’t quite make it out but you know it’s there. I am struggling right now with writing a book, a spiritual memoir, to be exact. It’s a book that has been inside of me for years, wrapped up in childhood trauma, guilt and fear, a progressively changing identity, deepening spirituality and a hotbed of emotions. I realized there was something there after making a monumental decision to leave corporate America. Towards the end of 2012, I found myself in a difficult situation with a new manager who had a very different work ethic than my own. It happened at a time when I was already at a crossroads in my life—I was at the right age with enough years of service under my belt to seriously consider early retirement. I was also yearning for independence and a real shot at building my own business.

As a matter of fact, I had a vision one day while leaving work; a vision of stepping off of a cliff and just soaring in the air, not falling but soaring forward and upward. Shortly thereafter, I had an incredibly distasteful conversation with my manager. When it was all said and done, when the steam stopped coming out of my ears, I knew it was time to move on. I gave myself a few days to mull it over then penned a rather lovely resignation letter—no struggle with that piece of writing. Suffice it to say, as of February 1, 2013, I no longer had a 9-5 job. Breathe.

Several months after my resignation, something unexpected happened. I had met a woman on Facebook who was hosting conference calls about mothers living their dreams and aspirations while being mothers, wives, caregivers, etc. She had gone through some dramatic life experiences that left her broken until she realized that she still had dreams and aspirations she still wanted to achieve. She was also the compiler for an anthology of 30 writers, all women, and she invited me to be a contributing author. I had always been pretty good at writing in general and had suspected for years that there was a book inside of me—though by no means did I actually identify myself a writer.

After hearing the concept for the book, in the midst of pure uncertainty and bonafide fear, I said yes. The book, Motherhood Dreams and Success: You can Have It All, published in 2014, turned out to be a gem, a collection of 30 incredible stories; stories of heartbreak, struggle, and pain juxtaposed with victories, triumphs and breakthroughs. Two things came out of that experience; first, it was an honor to be counted amongst the fellow authors and, second, that 1500-word chapter was the creative catalyst I needed to begin the journey towards a solo book project, the spiritual memoir I mentioned earlier.

I started writing the memoir in 2015. I developed a rough draft for the first chapter, then stopped dead in my tracks. I struggled. I simply couldn’t go any further. Then I attended a one-night women’s revival at my church. At the end of the service we were like a river, all standing around the altar and praying, like women do. It was one of those serious, God-is-in-the house moments, where all these women were praying, praising and weeping together. Right in the midst of that day-of-Pentecost moment, God spoke directly into my spirit, informing me that the reason I was unable to write is that I was simply not digging deep enough. He reminded me that it’s the depth of the journey that matters and if I do not dig through all the layers of trauma and emotion, I will never be able to write the truly authentic story that is in my soul. Like a dedicated anthropologist, I started digging, peeling stuff away to reveal the real story that is my life.

Though the struggle continues, my goal is to have the manuscript completed by spring of this year. I am learning some very valuable lessons as I write. Hopefully these lessons learned will help other struggling writers out there. Happy struggling…I mean writing!

  1. As a writer, it is often a struggle to get the raw data out of your head. (My friend Lynn told me that.)
  2. Embrace the struggle, envisioning the life and the structure of your story as you write.
  3. The pool of human creativity never runs out, the more you create the more you have to create. (Maya Angelou taught me that.)
  4. Life is a never ending story and we are each a unique book in God’s eternal library.
  5. Writing is a function of your identity—know that only you are you and you must understand who you are to tell a truly reflective story.
  6. Don’t be afraid to dig deeper when you write; that’s where the golden nuggets lie.
  7. If writing is your gift, then you are a writer 24/7.

Remember, you were born to do something great!

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Being a Multipotentialite

Hello, my name is Anita and I am a multipotentialite. How I love the sound of that word! Career coach, Emilie Wapnick, gives an illuminating discussion in her Ted Talk back in 2015. She defines multipotentialites as those who develop a range of interests, passions and careers over a lifetime. Watching her talk, I had a eureka moment realizing that word fit me to a T.

In my own words, what it means is this…

I am eclectic by God’s design, gifted in multiple areas, and creative in the work that I do. My formal education includes a BS in Biology from the University of Pittsburgh, a Specialized Technology Degree from the Art Institute of Pittsburgh, and an MS in Education from Capella University. Along the spectrum of my life, I became a research scientist, a learning and development specialist, a home school teacher, a strategic planner, an event planner, an instructional designer, a program manager, a diversity and inclusion leader, an entrepreneur, a website designer, a life coach and a writer.

I co-authored my first anthology back in 2014, Motherhood Dreams and Success: You can Have It All. Empower Your Life is my second anthology project and I’m working on a solo project, a spiritual memoir, due to be released later this year.

All of this has occurred over the course of my lifetime through three places of professional employment (the University of Pittsburgh for 8 years and two pharmaceutical companies for 25 years combined); through network marketing; and through volunteering with nonprofits and community-based organizations.

At the heart of it all is a strong belief in continuous improvement through learning and personal development. I believe in making today better than yesterday, this year better than the last, and even this decade better than the last. My personal growth and development is the result of three innate characteristics.

  • Strong faith, trust and belief in God
  • An undying love for reading, writing and learning
  • Passion for investing in people

So the question is this…

Are YOU a multipotentialite? In my view, the answer is heck yeah—though, you may not believe me! It’s all because the human family has creative potential beyond measure as a function of God’s design. We were made in His image. Having said that, I also believe in whole brain thinking versus split brain thinking, an expression of the domination or negation of one brain part over another.

I often hear people describe themselves as creative or analytical by virtual of split-brain thinking instead of creative and analytical by virtual of the brain as a fully integrated system. We were designed to be whole brain thinkers with parts of the brain working in concert with one another to produce a unique melody that becomes your life.

And the bottom line is this…

Life is too good a gift to not live fully. You are an amazing human being with potential beyond measure. However, you must tap into that potential in order to expend it kinetically. Life is continuous learning and discovery, growing and changing. How well you navigate it all determines how high you soar. My mission is to help you do more to soar!

Anita D Russell


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