The Power of Forgiveness

By Sandra Levey-Lunden

The Power of Forgiveness

How I Came to Study the Course and the prayer that changed the life of Sandy Levey-Lunden

 

In 1990, I received an answer to my desperate

request to God for a way to heal pain and suffering and

end separation in relationships, after my husband fell

in love with another woman, 25 years younger than me. I

told God in a prayer that I could live for 30 days more

while my husband was seeing this woman and

while I felt so much confusion, pain and

suffering about it. I had given God 31 days for an answer.

 

On the 31st day of my prayer, which went on day and night, a

man came into my life, whose wife had fallen in love with

another man at the same place and time as my husband. He

had been my student and promoter of my courses in Sweden.

The love affairs of our partners took place at an International

Peace Conference in Sweden. This man, Mats, joined with me

in my purpose: to find a way out of suffering in relationship.

 

Mats came carrying A Course in Miracles under his arm and

saying that he wanted to study it. I had seen this book before.

In fact, I had received copies, in the 1980s, from two of my

students. Over the years, I had looked into it and felt that, if I

was to study it, I would have to change everything I thought

and believed. In fact, it seemed that studying these books

would change my whole life. I was not prepared to do that

then. Now, because I was suffering so much, I was ready to

study ACIM. I had also been teaching seminars for ten years

and I needed a deeper way to support people in their

breakthroughs during the crises of relationship break-up.

 

While I was in Sweden, and Mats and I were in relationship in

a joint purpose, I received the answer to my prayer in the form

of the ‘Clearing Process’. The process matches the principles

of A Course in Miracles and I began to study the Course with

my new partner, as a way of freeing myself and others. In fact,

we left Sweden for four months and went to Hawaii to study

ACIM, night and day, and to apply the learning in a practical

way to our thinking and our lives. ACIM became a passion and

a joining force in our lives.

 

Forgiveness, in the Course, is not like traditional forgiveness. In

the old way, we forgive by seeing something that we believe

actually happened and attempt to overlook it. In Course-based

forgiveness, we recognize that it is our thoughts about the

situation that we need to forgive. We give everything the

meaning it has for us (W 4) and, therefore, it is our interpretation

of any situation that needs to be released. So, it is about having

“a little willingness” (T 383) to look at our unconscious, limiting

thoughts, feelings and beliefs in order to release them.

 

The Clearing assists us in removing unconscious and

conscious guilt from the past, changing the way we view

everything — our relationships, finances and success. It is the

most useful tool I have seen for releasing the limiting beliefs

that run our lives, send us into harmful cycles and motivate

self-destructive attitudes and behaviors. The Clearing

Process is a simple, yet profound, tool for speaking our truth

and releasing our ego thoughts, feelings and beliefs. In the

Clearing, we confirm the Holy Spirit’s truth in every

communication. We forgive ourselves, with the Holy Spirit as

witness and guide, for believing what our egos tell us.

 

Our upsets are simply doorways into old thoughts and old

memories that are in the ‘basement’ of our ego mind. By

releasing them, we can choose a life of joy, instead of suffering.

Choice is the most powerful tool we have in the mind. Our

power to choose determines our experience of the world we

see. Our thoughts, beliefs, feelings and behaviour are the

result of choices we make. Bringing this to awareness allows

us to continue to make better choices.

 

A Testimonial

The following is a testimonial, in her own words, from Krista, a

woman who has taken my classes. It is an example of how

unconscious beliefs can affect current relationships and how

forgiving those beliefs is the biggest step towards peace.

 

“When I was eight, I started menstruating and was devastated

when my mother failed to tell me what was happening to my

body. When I was 14, she found out that a teenager at my

school was pregnant and went into a rage, telling me that if I

got pregnant, “over her dead body”” would she let me keep it.

“I will make you have an abortion.” I was not even sexually

active, but had always known I wanted to have a family. Later

in life, I realized I was emotionally and physically paralyzed by

these experiences. I felt that it wasn’t safe for me to bring a

baby into the world, it was bad to be a woman and that I

should reject what was feminine and motherly in me. In my

logical mind, I knew this was not true but, deep down, I felt

unworthy of what I wanted most.

 

“When I was 30, I was diagnosed with endometriosis, a

condition that causes cells to grow outside the uterus. It

causes internal bleeding, pain and infertility. I scheduled

surgery to have the cells excised, but changed my mind. I

decided to explore my beliefs and childhood experiences first,

to heal those and to see where it would take me. By working

with Sandy Levey-Lunden and ACIM, I forgave my mother for

her behaviour and influence. But, more importantly, I stopped

blaming her and forgave myself for believing — for a decade

— that I was unworthy, damaged and infertile. I freed myself

from learned helplessness and embraced the truth that I am

worthy and lovable and that it was safe for me to have a baby.

Within three months, my husband and I conceived and our

miracle baby, Xavier, was born in 2004.”

 

Through teaching the ‘Clearing Process’, I have had the joy

and honour of seeing sicknesses healed, marriages saved and

families reunited. Forgiveness lifts the fog from the mirror and we see

our True Selves looking back at us, with the Holy Spirit at our side

— and, thus, we see the world clearer than before. The ‘Clearing

Process’ is True forgiveness. Forgiveness takes diligence and

the will to be happy, rather than to be right about what you

believe about the world and yourself. It ends separation. It is

our most important job — and we get ‘paid’ in rewards of

freedom, peace, joy and love.

 

Sandy is an Internationally Acclaimed Workshop Leader, Life Coach, Counselor, Creator of The Clearing Process(™), ACIM-Based Real World Results Achiever, Matchmaker, Networking Maven, Proud Grandma, and Dog Lover.

Copyright Sandy Levey Lunden

Office: (360) 527-2796

www.SandyLevey.com

onpurpose@sandylevey.com

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