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Supporting Those We Love

One of the beautiful lessons I’ve learned from my relationship with my amazing man is about support. Before we met I thought I was really great at supporting those I love. When I offered him support on different occasions I noticed there was a resistance on his part. He explained to me that although he appreciated my help, I never asked him how he wanted to be supported.

What I ended up doing, without realizing it, was one of two things. Either I supported him in the way that I would want to be supported if I were in that situation. Or I supported him the way I assumed he wanted or needed to be supported. I never even thought to ask him.

When we support our friends and family it’s because we want to be of some service to them to help make things easier. How often do we actually ask them how they want to be supported? With our closest friends usually all we need to do is say, “I love you and I’m here if you need anything”. Even though they know they can come to us for anything, wouldn’t it feel really good to instead say, “I love you. How can I help you? What can I do for you?”. You’re ready to take action if it will be of service to them.

There are a lot of people who have a hard time asking for help even when you’ve told them you’re there if they need anything. When you ask them how you can help, they don’t have to ask you. You’ve started the conversation. This for many is a support in itself. And this way you’re certain to know what action (or sometimes lack of action) will be the best thing to support them most in that time.

Don’t ever be afraid to ask those you want to help what you can do for them and how you can do it. It’s a small and simple step that supports those you care about in a very loving and powerful way. They will certainly be thankful that you want to help. They will be even more appreciative that you took the time to respect them and ask them what they need.

The Journey

We’ve all heard the saying “Life is about the journey, not the destination.” What does it really mean?

For me, it’s about remembering that there is never really any destination at all.

Through out our lives we have goals and experiences that we want to achieve. Even though they are specific things to get to they’re merely a new platform from which we shoot off new “rockets of desire”.

They help us build our passion and excitement so that we may choose what new goals and experiences we want to move in the direction of next. These platforms aren’t destinations. They’re part of the journey.

And often when we reach these platforms the excitement is short lived (at least at the intensity in which we conjured up the want of them in the first place). When we are standing in the moment of the platforms, we now have new excitement and new wants and new passions that propel us forward and propel us further along our journey. It’s the joy in the conjuring up of energy and moments along the way that life is really about.

Marriage is a wonderful example. It isn’t about the day of the marriage. It’s about you becoming who you truly are and in that attracting a wonderful life partner. It’s about the growing together as a couple and as individuals as you get to know each other through out your dating time. It’s about sharing in moments with your loved ones while planning the wedding and celebrating on the wedding day. Then it’s about all of the ways in which you and your partner choose to move through your years together as husband and wife. Whether you choose to be parents, grow your careers, create a living space to call a home…

It’s never about one moment in time. It’s about all of the moments put together that create the experience and the journey of life. “Life isn’t measured by the number of breaths we take but by the number of moments that take our breath away.”

There is only ever one true destination in life. And that is the being place of the moment, the now. And you are always there whether you’re conscious of it or not.

Don’t expend your life’s time and energy trying to get to someplace. All you have to do is slow down and just be. When you do this you’ll realize you’ve already arrived at the most wonderful destination you could imagine. When you’re present in your now moments, you truly are enjoying the ride.

About the Author: Lora Colautti, CTACC
Lora Colautti is a natural up lifter and a certified life coach. When her sister passed away from breast cancer, Lora was able to find the joy, beauty and positives even in a heartbreaking experience. Through her coaching she now helps and supports others in doing the same in their lives. She encourages those she meets to draw inspiration from life’s experiences and use it to help them move forward, filling their life with joy and purpose. Lora shares her ideas, tools and words of inspiration through coaching her clients as well as in newsletters, public speaking, seminars and workshops. Purposeful Life Coaching www.alittleplc.com