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5 Steps to Increasing Your Confidence

Ever feel like everyone you know has more confidence than you do?  You feel like you could crawl underneath the door and it’s not even open?

You are not the only one my friend. People all over the world has some confidence issues.  Whether it’s to talk to someone you want to go out with, reach out for friendship, develop business relationships, networking, or doing what you need to do to increase business. So, what do we do to increase our confidence?

Here are 5 things you can do today to increase your confidence:

  1. Posture – your posture tells the world a whole lot about you and your confidence. Remember your Mother telling you to sit straight and walk with your shoulders back.  Think of a person who walks in the room with their shoulders back, head held high and a smile on their face.  Now, think of a person who comes in the room with their shoulders rounded, head down and not smiling.  Which one looks more confident?  You are correct, the first one.  So, start with posture.
  2. Stop thinking of yourself so much. Sounds a bit harsh, but the more focus you have on yourself the more self conscious you will be.  Focus on the person you are talking with, be in the moment and be interested in the other person.
  3. Write out questions. If you are shy and don’t know what to say to people memorize some questions when the conversation goes to a stand still.  Especially if you are on a date and you are getting to know each other.
  4. Be yourself. You are unique and wonderfully made.  People want to know you not someone you think they want to know.  Don’t compare yourself to others.
  5. If it doesn’t come naturally to you at first, you will need to practice until you are comfortable.  Practice being around people.  Practice all the steps.

Whether you have some confidence or none, you can use these steps to increase your confidence.  There are so many more things you can do to increase your confidence, such as mindset and how you talk to yourself.  Give me a call for your complimentary discovery session to see how we can work together to increase your confidence.

About Karen

While reconstructing her life after divorce, she lost her 17-year-old daughter in a car accident.  Her life felt like it stopped, and she struggled and fought to get out of the darkness.  Although the two very stressful situations are very different she realized there were similar processes to recovery.

Karen is passionate about sharing her journey and step by step system to help others reclaiming their lives after the death of a loved one and divorce with POWER, CONFIDENCE & JOY so people can create joy and happiness once again.  She is now making her teachings available online.

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We Are All Free

We are all free. We can do whatever we want and we can live from our heart’s desires if we choose. But do we?

Most of us are confined to the customs of relationships that wrap around us like a noose, providing little more than guilt and shame if we do not conform to them and the expectations they bring.  But have you ever asked yourself where these beliefs and customs came from, and if they are still relevant to you today?

The one thing we know for sure is that change is constant. So why is it that we try so hard to make things stay the same, such as in marriage? Why is it that we can not effortlessly “go with the flow” and embrace change as it comes? Why do we feel guilty and shameful when a relationship ends or “does not work” and why do we even call it failure in the first place?

If we were really awake we would know that life is about growth and change. Therefore, how can we grow without change? When a relationship ends, we should be as happy and elated as when it began. We should thank them for what they have given us and for the experiences of love. There should be no judgement or shame for a “failed” relationship. But instead we should be in a state of gratitude and love. Love for ourselves and for the other person for sharing themselves with us for however long.

Guilt, shame and blame are some of the biggest deterrents to love. It keeps us bound in an unsavory world. It keeps our energy low and fearful. It keeps us from trusting ourselves and others. If we think we have failed in relationships, it will stop us from trying anew. It will stop us from loving with open hearts.

I believe the only way to be healthy is to be “in the flow” and to be in “the moment.” Being in the present moment means being tuned-in to one’s feelings. The present moment is the only moment that is real. It is the only way to be true to one’s self. The moment you make a “binding” contract with someone is the moment you have lost your freedom, your truth and your ability to stay connected to your feelings. This is because if you place the contract above your feelings, you will no longer be true to yourself. It is impossible to know your future, therefore, how can you say “until death do we part?” This is an instant set-up for failure. Why would we do this to ourselves? I believe this custom has been determined by outside authority forces who want to control the people, such as religious powers, governments and other people of power. But power is for the people. It is not for others to decide what we do with our bodies, relationships or anything else. We are autonomous Beings. We are free. But only when we let ourselves be. The moment we allow the law to decide for us, is the moment we lose our power to choose. I am all for romantic celebrations of love. But let them congratulate the current moment. Celebrate with the awareness that life changes. And that change, when it comes, is also a good thing that can be celebrated.

I believe marriage can be a safe choice and was necessary in the past to protect certain peoples. However, if you live in a state of trust, both in oneself and the higher creative powers such as God/Source, then you know how to thrive, empower yourself and go with the flow. You know that the positive way you think, feel and act is what will actually keep you safe and protected.

Power lies within and it is something that can be enhanced with practice. Inner power and trusting your intuition will bring you to all of the right people, places and things. It will support you. But in order to be supported by this power you must learn to trust the current and not resist it. The only way to do this is to be “in the moment” with your thoughts and feelings. You must go inward, be still, breath in the everlasting light and follow what feels right in the moment. Then be aware that moment will eventually change. This is where most people get stuck. They want a good thing to last forever and so they brace against any incoming change. They try to protect what they once had a minute ago and defend it with their life, instead of breathing, trusting and knowing that all change is for the better. One must have faith and know that constant change is the path. And one must walk down the new path seeking positive change in order to bring it about. Enlightened behavior is understanding that there will always be change, staying relaxed throughout the change and seeking its deeper meaning and positivity around each and EVERY corner.

If we are to evolve as a human race we must begin to understand that the only way to succeed in life is to be open to change and not judge it when it arrives. We must recognize that one moment does not and can not dictate the future of our lives. But instead that each moment brings us to a new place and time. We must always be free to choose. This is the only way we can be true to ourselves. We must live from our hearts in the moment and constantly ask ourselves, “Is this relationship (or anything else) what we want in this moment?” Every moment counts. If you are spending time with someone out of obligation, there is nothing true or real about your moment, and this will bring severe dis-empowerment. It will create a relationship based on a lack of freedom and truth.

Is this world ready to live from the heart in the moment? What are your thoughts? Would the world suddenly hit pandemonium and be in a sate of anarchy? Or would it become a more truthful, honest and safe place to live? I believe the more acceptable change and being in the moment becomes, the more gratitude and love we will have.

By Robin Eagle Sage

Copyright 2018 Sage School of Light

Mindfulness Monday Quick Hit #14 ~ Stop Your Busy: And Become Present Just Like That

Are you one of those people who has “to get to just one more thing” – constantly?

How about needing to be on-the-go all the time out of habit? Well imagine what it would be like if you could just STOP.

Stop the busyness and bring in the ahhhhhhh…

Photo Courtesy of Fabrizio Verrecchia

Most of us spend our time running around doing, doing, doing.

And while sometimes that makes us feel productive, important and needed – it sure doesn’t help us to feel grounded, clear or calm.

 

Do You Ever Just Stop?

Does it ever occur to you to just stop? Even for a moment.

It’s interesting how stopping changes your perspective on what seems so urgent.

And what really is so urgent or critical that you can’t stop, take a deep breath and become present?

Let’s be honest. Gratefully, for most of us there are very few occasions in our day, when our habitual running is actually averting pure disaster.

And it goes without saying, that you’ll be considerably more focused and effective if you do stop for that deep breath.

 

Here’s How To Stop & Become Mindful

So the next time you find yourself rushing –  use it as the perfect opportunity to become present and mindful by following these quick steps: 

  1. STOP dead in your tracks.
  2. Take a deep breath.
  3. Really feelthat deep breath.
  4. Refocuson what’s in your field of vision.
  5. Groundyour feet.
  6. State to yourself  aloud “I am present”.
  7. Smile.(very important step)
  8. Move onto your next task.

The more often you’re able to practice STOPPING, the better you’ll feel.

Pretty easy. Can’t hurt to give it a try.

 

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Mindfulness Monday Quick Hit #1 ~ So Simple

Do you want to start your week off right?

Check out your Mindfulness Monday Quick Hit below.

  1. Step outside and feel your feet firmly on the ground.
  2. Close your eyes and take in a deep breath filling your lungs completely.
  3. Exhale gently and slowly open your eyes.
  4. Notice your surroundings – the air, sky, ground, plants, sounds.
  5. Recognize this feeling of calm centeredness.
  6. Take this feeling with you throughout your day.

 

If you found this quick hit helpful please share with others.

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Thoughts on ‘Being Enough’

Everywhere we look, there is so much information about how to improve, to be better, to change, to beat the competition.  The other day, I was looking through a list of Women’s Empowerment books and the theme of having to ‘do more’ really stood out.

But what if you were actually perfect, just the way you are? What if there is nothing to add, just a few self-judgments to take away? When we were young children, we never doubted we were enough – that was a learned behavior; one we learned from society. We learned it from all the other people who also believe they are not enough, which they learned from the generations before them, and so it has gone, for far too long.

Here is a brief excerpt from the Galactic Council that they shared in a Transmission of Light. It is a message which reminds us of just how grand we already are.

“We wish for you to go back to the heart, back into that place of knowing self or maybe questioning self. You may call it either one. Go into that heart space and give yourself permission to be the wise, the grounded, the centered being that you truly are. In truth, you are these vast, wise, intelligent beings who have been crammed into these 3rd-dimensional bodies to have this physical experience. That is not who you are. That is a very small element of who you are. You are so much more than that, so much more wisdom, so much more light. It is time for that wisdom to take its next step of opening and awakening. That is not to say you forsake your precious body, rather honor all that you are, not just part of it.” 

If we are busy judging self and feeling the need to be fixed or improve, we are not able to settle honestly and authentically into our innate wisdom. Maybe it is time to just ‘be enough exactly as you are’ and finally surrender to your vastness, beauty and wisdom.

The year 2018 has been a year of Mastery. It is not about being or doing more, rather it is about recognizing our innate worth, as humans and as divine cosmic beings. That spark or soul, housed in our human container is pure magic, yet we are so focused on the perceived flaws in the container, we completely miss the magic of the spark that gives us life.

A brief affirmation that you may find beneficial is “I surrender all that I think I am, I surrender all that I think I know, I surrender to my beauty, my wisdom and my worth. I am perfect, whole and complete exactly as I am”. Of course you are welcome to add other things to surrender, however, I recommend you keep it simple and manageable. The more often you repeat these words, the more you will give yourself permission to ‘be enough’.

I challenge you to practice repeating this affirmation multiple times each day and notice if you are able to be more loving and gentle with yourself and others.

If you are feeling ready to surrender all the baggage you have taken on from the world around you, and truly be ‘enough’, then it is time to join me in the Galactic Council Inner Circle, where you will be immersed in the love and wisdom of spirit.

Train Your Brain and Manage Your Anxiety: Mindfulness Gives You The Choice

Does it ever feel like you just can’t control your thoughts? Jumping from one anxiety provoking scenario to another without reprieve.

Exhausting, stressful and disempowering are descriptors that come to mind. But I have some good news for you. You can control your thoughts. And by managing these little monsters you can find some new and welcomed descriptors like peaceful, centered and productive.

Let me share a few secrets with you.

 

What You May Not Realize About Your Brain

  1. Your brain can be trained. Yes that’s right. It’s a muscle and just like your bicep or your booty you can exercise and tone this muscle.
  2. Training this muscle can happen in just minutes a day.
  3. You don’t need any equipment to strengthen this muscle. All you need is yourself, a willingness and the space you’re in at the moment.
  4. It feels good to train your brain. Yep. You’ll have a positive reaction immediately. Doesn’t get much better than that.

 

How To Train Your Brain

What’s the magic exercise for training your brain and firming up this muscle?

 

MINDFULNESS

 

There are an endless number of mindfulness activities that you can incorporate into your daily routine. And as you get more comfortable with the idea, you’ll be noting mindful the moments as they occur.

But for the beginner, I would recommend identifying specific exercises and committing to two times each day where you agree to become more consciously mindful.

 

The Definition of Mindfulness

My favorite definition of mindfulness comes from Jon Kabat -Zinn, the creator of MBSR (Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction) and founder of The Center for Mindfulness in Medicine .

Mindfulness is…

Paying attention in a particular way

On purpose

In the present moment

Without judgment

 

If you haven’t already, reread the definition and take it in line by line.

It seems pretty simple when you put it that way.

“But how do I do that?” you might be asking.

Let me give you a couple techniques to try. And remember, the more often you exercise and train your brain with mindfulness, the better you’ll be at keeping the “good feelings” at the forefront and the “bad feelings” in a timeout where they belong.

 

Easy Mindfulness Techniques

As I mentioned before, on your journey to mindfulness it’s best to choose two times each day that you will practice mindfulness. Taking just these few moments to train your brain can make a difference. And the more you do it, the more grounded, calm and in control you’ll feel.

 

Technique #1

The Breath, The Breath, The Breath

All you need to do here is become still, close your eyes and slowly take 3 deep breaths. This brings you right into your body and into the moment.Becoming present. Done.

 

Technique #2

Drifting to Sleep Or Gently Waking

As you slip into your sheets for bed tonight, take several minutes to acknowledge the softness of your pillow, the warmth of your blankets and the restful support from your mattress. Delight in the relaxing sensations before drifting to sleep.

When you first wake up, appreciate the silence of the morning. Be still and listen for the more subtle sounds as you rise. The chime of a clock in the living room, the hum of distance traffic or faint chipping of birds. Tuning in and noting what you hear is an easy way to become present.

 

More Exercises and Techniques

If you liked the mindfulness activities above, check these Mindfulness Monday blogs. More easy techniques to try.

Quick Hit #4 ~ A Mindful Moment and Quick Hit #6 ~ The 3 Ws

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A Healthy Mind

When I was growing up, I remember observing my dad doing specific habits regularly.  Praying, meditating while listening to music, and reading.  At the time, I didn’t fully understand why this was a lifestyle for him.  I do know that it stuck with me.  When I had my own family, the reason became clear.   It gave him clarity in his thinking, wisdom in his decisions, and strength to navigate his life.

Naturally we wake up each day and have responsibilities before us.  We have deadlines, meetings, an agenda, and an array of events to attend to.  We have people that depend on us and people that we depend on to make these things happen.  Our bodies are being thrown in different directions and can bring physical exhaustion.  Sleep and food are the daily necessities and remedy that we have to have to function and keep up with all this.  Getting enough sleep and eating healthy are another whole conversation but are vitally important if our bodies are to function the way God intended them to.

What we fail to remember is that our “minds” need daily repair too.  Our mental health is just as important as our physical health.  We don’t realize to what extent until we lose them.

How do we keep our minds working the way God designed them to?  Strong and Healthy?

God gives us that answer in His word.  “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind.” Romans 12:12

  • Count our wins each day.  Thank our Heavenly Father for the goodness in our life.

  •  Pray for what or who is on our heart and minds that day.

  • Pick a scripture verse or devotion and meditate on it.

  • Trust Him with His plans for our family that day.

I can say without any hesitation that “Renewing my mind each day” has been the key to helping me navigate whatever comes my way in life.  I can’t imagine going one day without it.

In this journey together to learn and live out our authentic self,

Jennifer

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